Somehow, as we approach our middle school years–and enter college, we forget: the basics, to be kind.

The shinier our degrees, our cars, our hair, our lips, we take license to treat others badly. It’s as if our stuff, our smile, our money will compensate for the rude behavior fully on display.

And just maybe if you’re pretty, or thin, or athletic–or even very smart–you somehow no longer need to treat others with basic human decency.

I’ve seen grown men ignore the women in the room to make themselves ‘look’ smarter, better; and heard women seethe cutting words through their perfectly polished lips.